Julie's 15 Dating Tips On Creating And Maintaining Love Connections:::
1. Visualize and "act as if" each person you meet really "gets
you" - in other words, really understands you.
2. Make a decision to make each person you meet feel really
comfortable. This will alleviate any nervousness you're feeling.
Think of yourself as a gracious, charming host/hostess wherever
you are.
3. For the next 30 days concentrate on really liking the
opposite sex - thinking of each one as a safe ally.
4. Become your own best cheerleader and your own best friend -
this will aid you towards "flourishing" in a relationship, not
"needing" a relationship.
5. Always speak well of your family and friends-conversely avoid
a partner who speaks poorly of their friends and family.
6. The most exciting person to be around is the person who is
excited about their life-be positive and optimistic about your
life.
7. Look for commonalities, not differences-if we all knew what
our "type" was, we wouldn't be alone. Look for similarities,
enjoy contrasts and be more open-minded.
8. Never give up all your friends and outside interests for your
partner. It's important to keep the multidimensional features
that made you attractive initially.
9. Treat your partner with kindness and respect. Never take each
other for granted - be best friends.
10. Develop and demonstrate a real interest and support for your
partner's career, friends & family.
11. Your partner need not know everything about you . Keep a
little mystique.
12. Get in the habit of always putting your partner in the very
best light- give them the benefit of the doubt and concentrate
on what works, not on what doesn't work.
13. Minimize arguments and confrontations by avoiding the
blaming word "you", as in "you made me late for work." Rather,
use "building bridges" words as in "let's figure out a new way
to mange our morning schedules." Think and act as a team.
14. Avoid treating your partner like a child, no one wants
another mother. They are not your project!
15. Laugh. Together. A lot.
About the author:
Julie Paiva is the Founder and CEO of Table for Six Total
Adventures(TM); The premier northern California singles dining
and matchmaking social club. Julie is a recognized
dating/relationship expert and image Consultant. For more
information about our Dating and Matchmaking Services, please
visit our website at: http://www.tableforsix.com
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